For a multitude of reasons, including fear of embarrassment or judgement, many women draw a self-imposed line in the sand when it comes to exploring their sexuality on a deeper level. I want to strongly encourage you to release any inhibitions you may feel about tapping into your own sexual desires, as there is absolutely NO SHAME in exploring something which is such a natural and integral part of who you are. One of the wonderful benefits of being in a long-term relationship, is that you and your partner have had ample time to become comfortable with each other — on every possible level. You should feel at ease not only discussing your desires with one another, but also taking the next steps to explore new ways to intensify and deepen your sexual bond, together as a couple. You may say, ‘Well Em, we have missionary sex once every three weeks for five minutes flat. How do we go from that, to telling him I want him to hand-cuff me and spank me with a dildo?’ Yes, excellent point. So here’s what I want you to do — After your next sexual encounter, while you’re still lying there after your five minute ride to nowhere, take that moment as your opportunity to open up the conversation. You’re both in a very vulnerable state because you just shared your bodies, you’re naked, and your guard is down. Say to him softly, ‘I have this fetish/fantasy I’ve always wanted to share with you…can I tell you about it?’ There’s a very good chance he’d love to hear about your fetish/fantasy – and most likely, it will arouse him. While you’re opening up, ask him if he has any fetishes/fantasies he’d like to share with you too. If you’re both open and receptive to each other’s desires, take the next step and make a plan to carry them out. Say this mantra to yourself until you believe it wholeheartedly; ‘I give myself FULL permission to explore my sexuality. I release my inhibitions and lovingly embrace my sexual desires as a part of who I am.’ CLICK ON IMAGE TO VISIT THE SIM SHOP FOR FETISH/FANTASY PRODUCTS.