DARE YOU…CHALLENGE

EXPLORE YOUR FETISH – FANTASY

For a multitude of reasons, including fear of embarrassment or judgement, many women draw a self-imposed line in the sand when it comes to exploring their sexuality on a deeper level. I want to strongly encourage you to release any inhibitions you may feel about tapping into your own sexual desires, as there is absolutely NO SHAME in exploring something which is such a natural and integral part of who you are. One of the wonderful benefits of being in a long-term relationship, is that you and your partner have had ample time to become comfortable with each other — on every possible level. You should feel at ease not only discussing your desires with one another, but also taking the next steps to explore new ways to intensify and deepen your sexual bond, together as a couple. You may say, ‘Well Em, we have missionary sex once every three weeks for five minutes flat. How do we go from that, to telling him I want him to hand-cuff me and spank me with a dildo?’ Yes, excellent point. So here’s what I want you to do — After your next sexual encounter, while you’re still lying there after your five minute ride to nowhere, take that moment as your opportunity to open up the conversation. You’re both in a very vulnerable state because you just shared your bodies, you’re naked, and your guard is down. Say to him softly, ‘I have this fetish/fantasy I’ve always wanted to share with you…can I tell you about it?’ There’s a very good chance he’d love to hear about your fetish/fantasy – and most likely, it will arouse him. While you’re opening up, ask him if he has any fetishes/fantasies he’d like to share with you too. If you’re both open and receptive to each other’s desires, take the next step and make a plan to carry them out. Say this mantra to yourself until you believe it wholeheartedly; ‘I give myself FULL permission to explore my sexuality. I release my inhibitions and lovingly embrace my sexual desires as a part of who I am.’ CLICK ON IMAGE TO VISIT THE SIM SHOP FOR FETISH/FANTASY PRODUCTS.

SENSUAL MASSAGE

Can you remember the last time you showed your husband a gesture that was filled with sensuality? I can almost bet you were constantly challenging yourself to come up with fancy new ideas to impress him with sensuous activities in the beginning of your relationship. And just a gentle reminder, if your man is like most other men, that need and desire for sexual excitement doesn’t stop — ever. So your challenge for this week is to give him a sensual massage. This is a pretty basic challenge, but one that may be a little bit difficult for you if it’s been a long, long time since you’ve done anything like this for your husband. Regardless, you’re going to cast any hesitation aside and plan out the evening. Let him know you’re going to give him a special little treat later that night, but no further details. Set a time in your head and stick to it. Dim your bedroom lights or light some candles. Put on something sexy or get naked. Tell him to get naked and lay on his stomach. You can even have him use an eye mask so he can get completely lost in the sensation of touch. Straddle his butt, and have your lotions/oils at the ready. Caress his body in a gentle and loving way, starting at his shoulders and slowly move down his back, butt, and legs. When you’re ready, tell him to turn over and do the same on the front of his body. By the time you have him on his back, he should be pretty excited, and that’s when you should take things to the next level. It’s important you get into the sensuality of the act, lose yourself in the moment, and enjoy the fact you’re making your husband feel absolutely amazing. He’ll be daydreaming the whole next day about his wonderful night. CLICK ON THE IMAGE TO VIEW SENSUAL MASSAGE PRODUCTS IN THE SIM SHOP.

LET HIM CHOOSE

In this day and age of equality, women do a lot of the decision-making within the relationship; exactly the way it should be. But why not hand over the reins to your husband with a FUN decision he would love to make? Let him choose something sexy for you to wear. I know you may have your favorite items you think (and know) you look great in, but let him pick out what HE likes. There’s a chance it’s different than what you’d think he finds sexy or appealing. You’re allowing him to have control of this decision because you want to let him know his opinion matters and that you’re willing to satisfy his preferences too. Set a date to go out together so he can select something, or have him shop online here in THE SIM SHOP. No matter what method you use to shop, just let HIM do the shopping. Don’t make negative comments like, ‘Really…are you serious? That’s ridiculous looking!’ Or, ‘Yeah right, I would never look good in that!’ Just go with the flow and encourage him to pick out HIS favorites, no matter how you may feel about what he chooses. You might even suggest he does the shopping alone so he can be completely focused on what he’s looking for. No doubt he will get excited about not only how you will look in this sexy wear HE picked out, but the mere fact he’s the one picking it out will be equally exciting to him. This gesture lets him know you’re interested in pleasing him, which is a huge turn-on for a man because it makes him feel, well, just that – like a man. The next time you’re intimate, wear that piece of lingerie like you own it and love it! Your man will appreciate this Dare You Challenge more than you might imagine. CLICK ON IMAGE FOR HIM TO VISIT THE LINGERIE CATEGORY IN THE SIM SHOP.

TINDER DATE

Due to the never-ending expansion of technology, thousands of apps have been created for just about anything and everything you could possibly imagine. With that, numerous dating apps have been designed for every imaginable scenario. The Tinder app, which most people are aware of, single or committed, is for all intents and purposes a hook-up app. The concept sounds interesting enough; that is if you're into meeting up with a complete stranger based on a three year old photo-shopped  picture, your geographical location, and trusting you'll make it home in one piece by the end of the night. (Nah--I'll pass.) But since you're married or in a committed relationship, this isn't an option...or is it? Why not play out a Tinder hook-up with your significant other? Start texting one another as if you connected on Tinder and behave like complete horny strangers would behave. Create an intense build-up of anticipation, and set up a night and time to go 'hook-up' with each other. In a parking lot, a park, a bar...wherever. Continue to play out this flirtatious game as total strangers. Prepare yourself for a hot night of passion and excitement!
Due to the never-ending expansion of technology, thousands of apps have been created for just about anything and everything you could possibly imagine. With that, numerous dating apps have been designed for every imaginable scenario. The Tinder app, which most people are aware of, single or committed, is for all intents and purposes a hook-up app. The concept sounds interesting enough; that is if you’re into meeting up with a complete stranger based on a three year old photo-shopped picture, your geographical location, and trusting you’ll make it home in one piece by the end of the night. (Nah–I’ll pass.) But since you’re married or in a committed relationship, this isn’t an option…or is it? Why not play out a Tinder hook-up with your significant other? Start texting one another as if you connected on Tinder and behave like complete horny strangers would behave. Create an intense build-up of anticipation, and set up a night and time to go ‘hook-up’ with each other. In a parking lot, a park, a bar…wherever. Continue to play out this flirtatious game as total strangers. Prepare yourself for a hot night of passion and excitement!

OPPOSITE SEX

More than likely, you've gotten into the same routine with sex. You can pretty much predict each other's next move with your eyes closed. So why not shake it up? YOU call the shots on how things are going to go down. If you normally have sex with the lights off, turn them on. If he's usually on top, you get on top. If he's typically the pursuer, you be the pursuer. If your routine is to have sex at night, have morning sex instead. If you're normally not vocal during sex, be vocal! You don't have to scream and wake up the kids, but even some soft moaning is enough to let him know you're enjoying yourself. Whatever you decide to do differently, do it with excitement! Get yourself pumped up about it! Remember, predictability equals boring. Choose to do something completely opposite of your norm. It will be a welcome change for the both of you. I promise.
More than likely, you’ve gotten into the same routine with sex. You can pretty much predict each other’s next move with your eyes closed. So why not shake it up? YOU call the shots on how things are going to go down. If you normally have sex with the lights off, turn them on. If he’s usually on top, you get on top. If he’s typically the pursuer, you be the pursuer. If your routine is to have sex at night, have morning sex instead. If you’re normally not vocal during sex, be vocal! You don’t have to scream and wake up the kids, but even some soft moaning is enough to let him know you’re enjoying yourself. Whatever you decide to do differently, do it with excitement! Get yourself pumped up about it! Remember, predictability equals boring. Choose to do something completely opposite of your norm. It will be a welcome change for the both of you. I promise.

TIME TO PLAY

So, what’s your position on sex toys? Do you have an arsenal? Are you a sex toy virgin? Do you pull out your one hidden toy when you just can’t take it anymore and need a release? Sex toys are a creative way to add a whole different dimension into your sex life. The possibilities are virtually endless as to how these sexual aids can help spice things up in the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to explore the world of adult products which are meant to help heighten sexual pleasure, either solo or as a couple. Have some fun together and peruse THE SIM SHOP with your man. Select a few items that pique both of your curiosities. Or be discreet and shop for a toy yourself that you can use in private for some wonderful self-exploration. THE SIM SHOP was built into the Sexual Intimacy Matters website so women can feel comfortable shopping for adult products through a reputable, safe, and secure site. Sex toys really are a wonderful way to help both women and couples enhance their sexual experiences, add excitement back into their sex lives, and broaden their sexual horizons. Put on your adventure cap and get lost in the fun and naughty world of sex toys! COME TAKE A TOUR OF THE SIM SHOP!

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